Speak Up for the Voiceless | Speak Out Against Domestic Violence
By Nagia Moharram
A mass murder domestic violence shooting occurred in my neighborhood this past September. The gunman, age 32, arrived at the home he once shared with his ex-wife, age 27. He started an argument with her, and then shot her dead and seven of her friends whom she’d invited to a football watch party. Some of her guests were also his friends and had attended their wedding. The friends killed ranged in age from 22 to 34. The gunman had shown a knife and a gun earlier that evening at a bar just a few blocks away. Employees at the bar had called 911 after he left, and some even followed him in their own cars to what would be the murder scene, but then they kept driving on.
The estranged husband was an alcoholic with anger management issues, who owned many guns, and was depressed over his wife’s divorce filing. She had tried to make the marriage work, but his alcoholism and violence towards her compelled her to leave. She was getting her life back on track without him and it seems he couldn’t have that. The gunman was killed by a police officer responding to the scene. Nine lives were taken that night, and their families were only left to wonder why such senseless violence had to take away their loved ones.
The mass murder shook our neighborhood, which is normally safe, quiet, and family oriented. The couple had met at the local university, and many of the guests at the football watch party had gone to that same university. My oldest daughter had attended that university and knew someone who was invited to that same football watch party, but had decided not to go. I couldn’t help but wonder what if my daughter was invited with her friends and they had also gone to that party?
The house of the tragedy, wrapped with yellow crime scene tape, was just minutes from my youngest daughter’s high school. Every day we drove past the house I felt a heavy weight of sadness and horror for the young lives lost and their grieving families. Driving home one day, we noticed flowers left on the curb by friends, neighbors, and strangers. We also noticed tow trucks removing several cars from in front of the house. It took us just a few seconds to realize that those were the cars of the now deceased guests who were never to drive home again.
October was Domestic Violence Awareness Month. But after this month’s awareness campaign, will the topic be ignored until next October? I found myself wanting to understand what I, and others, could do to make a long-term difference. So I contacted Texas Muslim Women’s Foundation’s Outreach Coordinator, Hadeal Al-Shammary to find out what advice she could give me.
Ms. Al-Shammary listed a number of things that an individual needs to know and can do to help fight domestic violence:
Finally, Ms. Al-Shammary says, “Don’t discount the power of one voice. It’s one more voice than the voiceless victim has. Every voice matters and any effort can make a difference.” That’s why I chose to write this blog post. The victims of that horrific crime in my neighborhood, those young people who had so much of life ahead of them, called me to action. How can you help? Will you wait until next year’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month Campaign? Will you only talk about it if you hear a news item about another tragic event in your neighborhood? I encourage you to become a source for good and “reach out and speak out!”
Being a Good Humanitarian | A Muslim Perspective on Philanthropy
By: Mona Kafeel
Islam lays great emphasis on supporting the destitute and financially disadvantaged. The religion states in clear terms that it is the responsibility of the wealthy and privileged to look after the underserved segments of society. Muslims are not only instructed to do good to fellow humans, but are also told to treat animals well and to protect the environment.
Philanthropy is generally thought of as an act or gift to promote human welfare. Philanthropy for Muslims is of two kinds; obligatory and voluntary. Obligatory philanthropy consists of zakat and zakat-ul-fitr or fitra. Voluntary philanthropy includes the institutions of sadaqa and waqf. Islam takes giving a step further by making philanthropy compulsory and a legal duty in the form of zakat. Thus, a non-payer of zakat incurs God’s displeasure
Zakat is the annual share or portion of wealth that is obligatory upon a Muslim to give to definite categories of beneficiaries, if the value of his assets is more than a specified limit. The beneficiaries of zakat, mentioned in the Quran, are the poor, the needy, those in debt, and those employed to administer it in the way of God.
Zakat-ul-fitr or fitra is the charity which every Muslim pays at the end of the month of Ramadan and before the Eid to the economically disadvantaged. Zakat-ul-fitr is mandatory on every Muslim not only on his or her own behalf, but also on behalf of all the members in his or her household.
Sadaqa not only means charity in the form of money or food, but includes every act done for the benefit of fellow men. The Prophet (PBUH) said: “Every act of goodness is sadaqa”; and “there is a sadaqa due on every Muslim. If he cannot give because he has no money, let him work so he can support himself and give charity; if he is unable to work, then let him help someone in need of his help; if he cannot do that, let him adjoin good; if he cannot do that, then he should not do evil or harm others: it will be written for him as a sadaqa.”
Waqf is the permanent dedication, by a Muslim, of any property for any purpose recognized by as religious, pious or charitable. Waqf causes the transfer of ownership, of the thing dedicated, to God. But as God is above using or enjoying any property, its profits are reverted, devoted, or applied to the benefit of humankind.
Any property can be the subject of waqf. The validity of a waqf is determined by the possibility of everlasting benefit being derived from it by any form of dealing of which it is capable, or by converting it into something else. It is only where the subject matter is totally unfit for being turned into profitable use that its dedication fails. Yet, the Islamic institution of waqf has a wider scope and purpose. The institution became so popular and important in Islamic countries that, in most of them, a special ministry was established to deal with the administration of waqf properties.
To conclude, giving of one’s wealth, property, time and talents for the betterment of others is central to Muslim life. I’d like you to consider including the Texas Muslim Women’s Foundation in your yearly giving and the reason for that is this: through our emergency shelter and social services, we are saving lives and healing the human soul. We are making life safe for families. We are creating peaceful homes. Please join us in our work. May peace be upon you.