Muslim Women for All Women

Family Violence Hotline: 972.880.4192
Office: 469.467.6241

Our Latest Thoughts

January 2018 – TMWF Gala

by Nagia Moharram

Happy new year, 2018!  Every new year brings the hope that we can achieve more than before and change our past course to a brighter future.  Each resolution is a challenge, even if it appears like a small change to others.  Often to achieve these resolutions, we need the encouragement and support of others.  The new year is a great time to pause, reassess, plan, and commit to improving ourselves and the lives of those around us.   When focusing on self improvement, we realize that to improve ourselves we cannot isolate ourselves but we actually also need to engage in the lives of those around us.

Here’s one way to meet some common positive resolution that many of us might have.  If you’re thinking this is the year I want to:

  • meet people from various backgrounds,
  • volunteer to help others,
  • be more engaged in my community,
  • engage others in learning about my community and learning about theirs for a more harmonious society, with more dialogue, diversity, and determination

….then join us at the upcoming Texas Muslim Women’s Foundation (TMWF) Gala on January 27, 2018 and discover how you can partner with TMWF to achieve some of your new resolutions! The Gala showcases TMWF services, events, and volunteer opportunities so you can plan your activities for the year ahead. Dr. Hind Jarrah, TMWF’s Executive Director, invites you to join us: “We want to encourage and energize our friends and supporters to join hands with us to continue our dedicated, thorough, and much needed work for our entire community.”

As with every TMWF Gala, we invite a keynote speaker who exhibits the same passion that TMWF has for connecting people and improving society. This year’s honorable guest is Imam Khalid Latif.  Imam Khalid is the University Chaplain and Executive Director of the Islamic Center at New York University (ICNYU), and the Muslim chaplain for the New York Police Department (NYPD).

Imam Khalid is a role model for young American Muslims seeking guidance to maintain their identity in an increasingly diverse culture of various beliefs and backgrounds.  After graduating from NYU with a major in Middle Eastern and Islamic Studies at the age of 22, he continued his studies at the nondenominational Hartford Seminary in Connecticut in its Islamic Chaplaincy Program.  During his first year of graduate studies he volunteered as NYU’s first Muslim chaplain.  Then at the age of 23, he commuted between New York and New Jersey to also be the first Muslim chaplain at Princeton University.  After graduating from the Hartford Seminary at the age of 24, he become a full time chaplain at NYU’s Islamic Center, the first fully established Muslim student center at a U.S. institution of higher learning.  That same year, in 2007, Imam Khalid’s efforts to bridge diverse cultures and faiths throughout the city, were noticed by Mayor Michael Bloomberg who nominated Imam Khalid as the youngest Muslim chaplain of the NYPD, the largest police department in the U.S.A.

Imam Khalid takes part in several business ventures, from which a percentage of the profits go to assisting those in need.  His business ventures include Honest Chops, the first organic halal butcher in New York City; the Muslim Wedding Service, providing couples an individually tailored Muslim officiated marriage ceremony; and the MKO Investment Group, which owns and operates several food franchises.

Imam Khalid has also been on several advisory groups.  He was selected to be on New York City (NYC) Mayor Bill Deblasio’s “Transition Team” as well as NYC Public Advocate Tish James’ “Task Force to Combat Hate.”  Imam Khalid has also worked with various institutions and places of worship, and other communities in the U.S., including the U.S. State Department, and internationally, including in Canada, Denmark, Egypt, the Netherlands, and Spain.

Imam Khalid’s solid inspirational and inclusive leadership style has helped him reach a large audience through his Friday sermon podcasts and videos on YouTube.  During the month of Ramadan, Imam Kahlid writes a daily reflection for the HuffPost.  He has also been quoted or featured in various media outlets including, BBC, CNN, NPR, and The New York Times, Newsweek, Time Magazine, BET, The Guardian, and GEO TV.

In 2012, Imam Khalid co-founded with NYU’s Vice-Chancellor Linda Mills, Rabbi Yehuda Sarna, and Chelsea Clinton the “Of Many Institute for Multi-faith Leadership” (OM), which educates spiritual leaders to use multi-faith interaction and engagement as a source for positive social change.  Imam Khalid and Rabbi Yehuda co-teach the popular OM course, “Multi-faith Leadership in the 21st Century.”  Imam Khalid and Rabbi Yehuda’s friendship and work are the subject of the 2014 documentary “Of Many”, directed by Linda Mills and produced by Chelsea Clinton, which premiered at the Tribeca Film Festival to great reviews.

There is so much more we could say about Imam Khalid, but instead we invite you to meet him for yourself at our TMWF Gala.  He is a great example of someone working hard to improve the society around him, making a difference for the betterment of his fellow man, and serving as an agent for change and fellowship.  Imam Khalid exemplifies what TMWF aims to achieve with your help: to bring together people of all ages and backgrounds together for the common good.

TMWF believes in the interconnectedness of an empowered individual and a strong thriving society. TMWF is here to connect us all together, so we can strengthen one another.  TMWF is here for those seeking support and for those seeking to help, for those seeking to learn and those seeking to teach, for those in need and for those who can give.  TMWF truly belongs to the entire community as a resource for its betterment.  Please join us at the Gala to learn more about us, and how you can be part of the foundation of TMWF.  Because we can only achieve a strong community when we all work together, resolve to be at the Gala!

 


 

December 2017

Speak Up for the Voiceless | Speak Out Against Domestic Violence

By Nagia Moharram

 A mass murder domestic violence shooting occurred in my neighborhood this past September.   The gunman, age 32, arrived at the home he once shared with his ex-wife, age 27.   He started an argument with her, and then shot her dead and seven of her friends whom she’d invited to a football watch party.   Some of her guests were also his friends and had attended their wedding.   The friends killed ranged in age from 22 to 34.  The gunman had shown a knife and a gun earlier that evening at a bar just a few blocks away.  Employees at the bar had called 911 after he left, and some even followed him in their own cars to what would be the murder scene, but then they kept driving on.

The estranged husband was an alcoholic with anger management issues, who owned many guns, and was depressed over his wife’s divorce filing.  She had tried to make the marriage work, but his alcoholism and violence towards her compelled her to leave.  She was getting her life back on track without him and it seems he couldn’t have that.  The gunman was killed by a police officer responding to the scene.  Nine lives were taken that night, and their families were only left to wonder why such senseless violence had to take away their loved ones.

The mass murder shook our neighborhood, which is normally safe, quiet, and family oriented.  The couple had met at the local university, and many of the guests at the football watch party had gone to that same university.  My oldest daughter had attended that university and knew someone who was invited to that same football watch party, but had decided not to go.  I couldn’t help but wonder what if my daughter was invited with her friends and they had also gone to that party?

The house of the tragedy, wrapped with yellow crime scene tape, was just minutes from my youngest daughter’s high school. Every day we drove past the house I felt a heavy weight of sadness and horror for the young lives lost and their grieving families.  Driving home one day, we noticed flowers left on the curb by friends, neighbors, and strangers.  We also noticed tow trucks removing several cars from in front of the house.  It took us just a few seconds to realize that those were the cars of the now deceased guests who were never to drive home again.

October was Domestic Violence Awareness Month.   But after this month’s awareness campaign, will the topic be ignored until next October?  I found myself wanting to understand what I, and others, could do to make a long-term difference.   So I contacted Texas Muslim Women’s Foundation’s Outreach Coordinator, Hadeal Al-Shammary to find out what advice she could give me.

Ms. Al-Shammary listed a number of things that an individual needs to know and can do to help fight domestic violence:

  1. First of all, be open about these issues that are affecting society substantially.  Domestic violence and abuse, like sexual harassment in the work place and bullying online and in schools, are issues that need to be normal topics of conversation not just brought up once after a terrible crime has been committed and a person has been violated.
  2. Understand that domestic violence (DV) isn’t only physical and/or sexual abuse; it can also be verbal, emotional, financial, and even spiritual.  An example of financial abuse can be withholding money, but it can also be withholding legal documents, so that the victim cannot work legally and become independent.  Spiritual abuse can be twisting religious doctrine to validate the actions of the perpetrator or to shame the victim.
  3. Realize that abuse occurs at all levels of the community.  It affects all genders, ages, socio-economic levels, races, religions, etc.  So if we truly want to be an engaged, empowered, and supportive community, we have to realize that the suffering among us, is an issue for all of us.  These victims can be our co-workers, our neighbors, our service providers, our friends, and our family.  We don’t have to be known activists, prominent community members, or older adults to discuss these issues.  Abuse has to be discussed in and among all people of a society, young and old, both within the specific group and interactively in mixed groups.   We can learn from one another what signs to look for to potentially detect abuse and prevent it.
  4. Think outside the box to combat DV, which has such a devastating affect on individuals and our society as a whole.  People might donate money, and forget about the cause.  While monetary donations are very much needed, we also need to think about emotional and spiritual assistance.   There need to be safe places where victims can feel safe.   Ms. Al-Shammary would like to see the creation of group therapy for DV victims like Alcoholics Anonymous meetings, where victims and survivors can relay their experiences and find support.  Places of worship as well as recreation centers, where people come for self-care, improvement, and empowerment would be ideal for such conversations, because they offer that very needed emotional and spiritual support.
  5. Prevention in the form of education in schools, to new immigrants, at places of worship, in the workplace, etc., needs to occur anywhere and everywhere because anybody can be affected.  A critical message needs to be that the victim is not in any way at fault, and that the victim must reach out for help.  A positive initiative taking place is the training of service providers to detect possible abuse including health care providers, beauty salon professionals, and law enforcement.   Anyone who has a platform to speak and should use it to educate about DV, including teachers, coaches, religious leaders, anyone in any form of the media, etc.
  6. Be proactive by learning about the issues involved and spreading awareness of available resources.  Stay updated on various laws that might affect victims.  Abuse of any kind should not be swept under the rug as a taboo issue.  It’s a safety issue.  Everyone should be aware of these resources to help a victim and to prevent an individual from becoming a victim. Where can we find out and become a part of the solution?  Check out organizations like:

Texas Council on Family Violence  | National Network to End Domestic Violence

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence

Men Stopping Violence | Futures Without Violence

Finally, Ms. Al-Shammary says, “Don’t discount the power of one voice.  It’s one more voice than the voiceless victim has.  Every voice matters and any effort can make a difference.”  That’s why I chose to write this blog post.  The victims of that horrific crime in my neighborhood, those young people who had so much of life ahead of them, called me to action.  How can you help?  Will you wait until next year’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month Campaign?   Will you only talk about it if you hear a news item about another tragic event in your neighborhood? I encourage you to become a source for good and “reach out and speak out!”

Nagia Moharram is a Contributing Feature Writer for the Texas Muslim Women’s Foundation and contributes the blog Plaid for Women.

 


 

November 2017

Being a Good Humanitarian | A Muslim Perspective on Philanthropy

By: Mona Kafeel

Islam lays great emphasis on supporting the destitute and financially disadvantaged. The religion states in clear terms that it is the responsibility of the wealthy and privileged to look after the underserved segments of society. Muslims are not only instructed to do good to fellow humans, but are also told to treat animals well and to protect the environment.

Philanthropy is generally thought of as an act or gift to promote human welfare. Philanthropy for Muslims is of two kinds; obligatory and voluntary. Obligatory philanthropy consists of zakat and zakat-ul-fitr or fitra. Voluntary philanthropy includes the institutions of sadaqa and waqf. Islam takes giving a step further by making philanthropy compulsory and a legal duty in the form of zakat. Thus, a non-payer of zakat incurs God’s displeasure

Obligatory Philanthropy

Zakat is the annual share or portion of wealth that is obligatory upon a Muslim to give to definite categories of beneficiaries, if the value of his assets is more than a specified limit. The beneficiaries of zakat, mentioned in the Quran, are the poor, the needy, those in debt, and those employed to administer it in the way of God.

Zakat-ul-fitr or fitra is the charity which every Muslim pays at the end of the month of Ramadan and before the Eid to the economically disadvantaged. Zakat-ul-fitr is mandatory on every Muslim not only on his or her own behalf, but also on behalf of all the members in his or her household.

Voluntary Philanthropy

Sadaqa not only means charity in the form of money or food, but includes every act done for the benefit of fellow men. The Prophet (PBUH) said: “Every act of goodness is sadaqa”; and “there is a sadaqa due on every Muslim. If he cannot give because he has no money, let him work so he can support himself and give charity; if he is unable to work, then let him help someone in need of his help; if he cannot do that, let him adjoin good; if he cannot do that, then he should not do evil or harm others: it will be written for him as a sadaqa.”

Waqf is the permanent dedication, by a Muslim, of any property for any purpose recognized by as religious, pious or charitable. Waqf causes the transfer of ownership, of the thing dedicated, to God. But as God is above using or enjoying any property, its profits are reverted, devoted, or applied to the benefit of humankind.

Any property can be the subject of waqf. The validity of a waqf is determined by the possibility of everlasting benefit being derived from it by any form of dealing of which it is capable, or by converting it into something else. It is only where the subject matter is totally unfit for being turned into profitable use that its dedication fails. Yet, the Islamic institution of waqf has a wider scope and purpose. The institution became so popular and important in Islamic countries that, in most of them, a special ministry was established to deal with the administration of waqf properties.

To conclude, giving of one’s wealth, property, time and talents for the betterment of others is central to Muslim life. I’d like you to consider including the Texas Muslim Women’s Foundation in your yearly giving and the reason for that is this: through our emergency shelter and social services, we are saving lives and healing the human soul. We are making life safe for families. We are creating peaceful homes. Please join us in our work. May peace be upon you.

 

Mona Kafeel is the Chief Philanthropy and Operations Officer of the Texas Muslim Women’s Foundation. Photo credit to Charlise Hill-Larson & Plano Magazine.
Leave Site »
Translate »